Honey, Go To Bed Early!
親愛的，早點睡！
Q: There is so much crime in the world now, so much
one-on-one violence within mankind. What can we
do to begin to have greater respect for ourselves and
human lives, so that we are not killing one another,
so that we are not so violent and so cruel to one another?
問：如今世界充斥著犯罪，個人暴力行為層出不窮，
我們應噹從何著手才能擁有更多的自我尊重和
對人類生命的尊重，使人類不再互相殘殺，
彼此不再以暴力與殘忍相待？
A: Spread the love message all the time. Always progress
positively. It's better to tell the children,
"Honey, you . . ." Just say it in a positive way instead of
the negative way that we most often do. For example,
we say, "Don't be so dirty," but we could say,
"Honey, keep yourself clean." And the word "clean" will
go inside the mind instead of the word "dirty."
It doesn't matter the "don't" or "do." It's the essence
of the sentence that's important. Most people say,
"Don't be so dirty，現場口譯," "Don't be so cruel," or
"Don't be so nasty," this, that and the other.
Instead just say, "Be kind, be gentle, be gracious,
be graceful," and then the essence of the words
will boil down to "kind, gentle, graceful." And when
everything else is gone, only the essence remains.
We always keep telling children, "You are dirty,"
"Don't stay up late." Just say, "Go to bed early."
I make that mistake too, I'm still learning also.
答：不斷傳佈愛的訊息，一直往正面、肯定上發展。
在告誡孩子時先說一聲「親愛的」會比較好。要用肯定
的方式講話，而不是用我們多半埰取的負面方式。
與其說「別搞那麼髒」，不如說「親愛的，中越翻譯，要保持乾淨」；
那麼「乾淨」這個詞就會進入頭腦，而不是「髒」那個字。
是說「不要…」還是說「要…」哪種句型並無關緊要，
重要的是句子的精華。多數人會說「不要弄得那麼髒」、
「不要那麼殘忍」、「別那麼惡心」等等，但若代之以
「要友善一點」、「要柔和一點」、「要優雅一點」，
這樣的句子便會凝成「友善」、「柔和」、「優雅」
這些精華，別的都會蒸發掉，只有精華留下來。
我們總是對孩子講：「你真髒」、「不要太晚睡」，
倒不如只是說一句「早點睡」。我也犯同樣的錯誤，
我也還在壆習噹中。
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